Coming across as smart and emotionally intelligent isn't just about the ideas or expressions you're trying to convey, it's also about how you say it.
People often use more intelligent words and expressions to appear more profound and insightful. This can actually have a negative effect, leaving the other person feeling self-conscious and judged.
The next time you talk to someone, try using these three simple expressions that, in fact, are mostly used by people with high emotional intelligence.
1. "Can you tell me more about this?"
When someone confides in you, especially about something sensitive or important, your first thought should not be a judgment call.
People with a high emotional quotient ask questions that make the person in front of them feel heard and accepted, and push them toward new details and long, bare-bones narratives, writes CNBC.
2. "I think..."
When you're correcting someone or giving an opinion, saying "that was the problem" comes across as offensive and rude.
3. “Can you give me some advice?
“As strange as it sounds, asking for advice can make you look smarter. After all, it takes some emotional intelligence and self-awareness to realize that you don't know the answers to every situation or event, Anabel quotes.
One of the biggest obstacles to this approach is anxiety, and it stops you from taking the first step that could lead to a key business contact, a new job opportunity, or a romantic partner. So, don't hesitate whenever you feel you need advice.